(If you don't want to read it, just know its all about not comparing your
marriage (or your life) to other people or their relationship.)
It really hit home for me. I think as women, we all constantly do this with each other...but then we tend to take it one step further; comparing our husbands to other people's husbands. Which, if you think about it, isn't fair at all.
One thing I think we forget is we see (most) people at their best, while you and your spouse share the best and the worst. Why compare your "behind the scenes" with someones highlights?
Why base your happiness in something you can't control? If your wishing your husband/friends/family were a certain way, and you're not happy because of it- you aren't in control and you will never be happy. It's not your place to change people when you are imperfect yourself.
In summary, this is what I've learned and what I am going to work on: Focus on yourself. Learn from those you look up to and become better. Love the people in your life for who they are.
Does anybody have any thoughts?
I used to be an avid blog reader of this amazing mom in Florida. Every day I would read it and say "Why isn't my life like that? why can't I be awesome like her?" Josh pointed out the same thing you came to learn. I was comparing my whole life and person to the best parts of hers. I decided to stop reading blogs that would make me feel inferior as a person because I have a lot to offer the world. I just had to have a reminder to take a step back and really focus on who I am and what I'm doing for my loved ones around me. You are lucky to have learned this so early :)
ReplyDeleteSomething that I have come to learn is that happiness does not come from outside sources, including from other people. I used to base my happiness on the way that others treated me, which made for some pretty unhappy days sometimes. I learned that other people are not responsible to build me up and make me feel good about myself! Now I go to my Father in Heaven and draw from my Savior's Atonement to nurture my spirit and I love myself for who I am rather than for my possessions or accomplishments. :)
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